To Those Who Keep Criticizing Themselves,
- March 01, 2021
- By Faizan Ali
- 2 Comments
Honestly, it's not really your fault that you keep criticizing yourself every single day. It's also unintentional when you blame yourself for not being good at things that others around you are good at. And it's definitely not just a phase where you feel low and cry over for not being good enough.
Being harsh to your own self is never anyone's idea of treating themselves. But it happens naturally and I really don't blame you. We all are living in a generation where everyone is putting their achievements, success, fun, stress-free life out there in front of the world, without letting the world see the pain, the hard work, the stress, and the battles they had to go through themselves.
This has obviously raised bars for all of us. We are seeking perfection, we want to be the best in everything we do and we want to let the world see how happy we are. You want to travel the world like that friend of yours and you want to look beautiful like that girl from school, you want to strike that signature pose at the Disneyland park and you want to have what everyone is having - from fancy vacations to stunning outfits, from glamourous parties to carefree night outs, from fame on social media to success in real life - you want it all too.
But in this pursuit of perfection, what exactly are you chasing? I personally feel that most of us are in the pursuit of perfection that has been set by the people we know. The definition of perfection here is according to them, not us. And this is where we all are going wrong. If you constantly compare your progress with that of others and if you choose to ignore your little victories, by looking at the bigger picture, then fellow human, you are doing wrong to yourself.
Most of us criticize our own self, asking, 'why couldn't I get the highest marks in the class' or 'why I couldn't pull off that dress like she did' or 'why am I not good at anything' or 'why am I not sorted like others my age'. I don't blame you. I understand you want to be good enough to be a part of the world. You too, want to live a happy, stress-free life.
But don't go too hard on yourself.
But don't go too hard on yourself. There are going to be things that you won't like about your own self. And there are going to be days when no amount of self-love, self-care advice would seem to work. But that doesn't mean you are not enough. You are a human, you can't be the best in everything but you can learn and grow. You are unique, you can't be like others your age but you can still be yourself. You are different, you have your own interests and passion.
And most importantly, you are the only person who can and should love yourself for who you are - messy or clumsy, short or tall, skinny or fat, average or extraordinary - be there for yourself always. Keep learning, keep growing, nobody did that in a day, so you take your time and celebrate your life. And remember, no matter how cliché this might sound, self-love is important.
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